I love this song! Just like the rest of the world I guess. Here’s a link to the translation of lyrics, if you don’t speak Spanish. It’s a bit clunky but you get the gist of it. https://www.google.com.au/…/despacito-lyrics-translation-en…
The reason I love it so much is because I see and receive it as a devotional tribute to womens’ pleasure, and the message of the song – the call to slow down and really be present and enjoy every moment of sexual intimacy, is in alignment with everything we share in the Yoniverse. I’m facilitating my first weekend of retreats this coming weekend and I’m really looking forward to it, but I am also a bit nervous.
I’ve actually just returned from three weeks in the Caribbean and while it’s not quite as glossy/pert breasted/cellulite free as the film clip for Despacito suggests, it is a place where sex hangs in the air like the scent of overripe fruit.
It’s a very sexy part of the world. Maybe too sexy? I’m not sure.
It’s something I have struggled with living in the Caribbean at various times in the last decade. Over there it’s pretty common as a woman to walk down the street and be overtly ogled, whistled at, and visibly objectified whenever you leave your house.
At the same time, men over there can and love to dance and they’re generous in their attention and expression towards women, generally speaking of course.
Sex is closer to the surface than it is in our culture here, and that has pros and cons. How much is too much? What exactly is objectification? Where’s the line between appreciation and abuse? Watching the film clip for Despacito, I feel the whole of this sticky, hot, messy debate arise within me. A bit like sex itself, actually. Good sex, anyway. Sticky, hot and messy :-).
I get that it’s a bit of a minefield these days for all of us when it comes to relating between the genders, political correctness can make it seem like it’s impossible to just be. Even writing this I feel like I might get in some hot water somewhere! The climate we’re in doesn’t feel safe to be expressive.
I love sex and intimacy and I love both men and women. I believe that we are all longing for connection and ways to express our devotion, appreciation and pleasure. And this is what inspires us to make art and music like Despacito.
Living in the cultures we do we’ve either forgotten, or never learned how to do this in ways that honour both genders.
This is what is so special about the Yoniverse. We offer the opportunity to come into a deeper and more sacred honouring of sexuality with a special emphasis on honouring the Yoni.
We share what we like, what we don’t like, what we appreciate, what we are struggling with inside ourselves, what stops us from being present in sex, what opens us up, and some awesome perspectives and approaches for both women and men to weave into their lives based on all this juiciness.
Here’s the link to my upcoming workshops:
MEN : https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/gold-coast-discovering-the-yoniverse-men-only-tickets-36220296883
WOMEN : https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/gold-coast-mysteries-of-the-yoniverse-women-only-tickets-36220391165